When it comes to bondage, first things first – make sure what you’re doing is safe, sane and consensual. Next, read on for some tips and tricks to help you get started making your bondage fantasy a reality.
Safe Word
Before you begin, be sure to agree on a safe word. That way, if anything becomes too painful or too much to handle, it’s possible for the submissive to say stop in a way that’s clearly not part of the activity. If a partner decides to be gagged as well as restrained, make sure you come up with another safety signal that can be easily recognized.
Restraining
Make sure ropes or cuffs are not too tight by checking circulation often and looking for areas that might be turning blue or white. Also be sure that you never restrain someone so tight they can’t breathe, and keep a pair of flat edged medical safety scissors nearby in case someone needs to be released quickly.
Beginner’s Tools
For first timers, it’s recommended that you restrain with soft material like a suit tie, a scarf or rope that won’t give you splinters. If you don’t want to start with physical bondage, you can use a blindfold to deprive one partner of a sense, sight, which will in turn enhance other senses, such as smell and touch.
Once you act on your bondage fetish, you may never go back. Really anything goes as long it’s consensual and partners respect each other’s boundaries. Once you start experimenting, you never know what you’ll discover!